The Five Love Languages

I have not read the book "The Five Love Languages" by Dr. Gary Chapman, some of you may have. I heard on the radio today a website called "Keep the Faith" you can go to and take a quiz to get your love language profile to see what your love language is.  So I took the quiz and I had Kevin take the quiz.  I wasn't surprised at all by the results as far as which one would be my "love language" and which one would be Kevin's "love language"; I could have told you the results before we took the quiz.  If you have an extra 5-10 minutes, take the quiz and have your spouse take the quiz.  It was good information for us both to see how we can show "love" to each other in the way that they need it most.  In Sunday School, one thing we have been talking about lately is putting aside our selfish needs and both of us focusing on what the other one needs instead.  If we both do that to the fullest, then our spouse will be fulfilled and our marriage would be healthier.  Instead of just wanting our spouse to do for us, and not willing to meet their needs in return.  Or instead of meeting their needs in return, doing it Before, they meet our needs.  Here is the website: http://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/. (They also have a quiz for an apology and appreciation)

Here were our results:

 

Jill's Love Profile

(The first two love languages tied for first place)

 

1. Quality Time

2. Acts of Service

3. Physical Touch4

4. Words of Affirmation

5. Receiving Gifts

 

Kevin's Love Profile

(The third and fourth love language tied for third place)

 

1. Physical Touch

2. Words of Affirmation

3. Quality Time

4. Acts of Service

5. Receiving Gifts

 

The only thing that we had the same was we both put receiving gifts was last.  Below is some more information explaining each love language.

 

Quality Time

In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there–with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby–makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

 

Acts of Service

Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.

 

Physical Touch

This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face–they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.

 

Words of Affirmation

Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important – hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten. Kind, encouraging, and positive words are truly life-giving.

 

 

Receiving Gifts

Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous – so would the absence of everyday gestures. Gifts are visual representations of love and are treasured greatly