Unfortunately we had to say "good-bye" to Wally. Mrs. Katie (Kevin's mom) had been noticing some unusual behavior in him over the past week. He was being rough when playing with the kids, he had penned Daisy down by the neck, and he got out of his pen and was on the pouch when she came home one day. He was really growling at her. So she took him to the animal shelter and they said that he was a full-blooded red-nosed pittbull. They told her that he would make a great dog, but Mrs. Katie said with all the grandchildren and other animals around, they couldn't keep him. So he is on his way up North somewhere to a pittbull animal shelter where they train those type of dogs to be nicer and better behaved. So, hopefully a nice family will get him. They figured that someone just dropped him off. Those are very common around here and are used mainly for fighting. So either he got away or he wasn't "fighting" material. But anyway, Wally is gone.
Wednesday, February 25, 2009
Sunday, February 22, 2009
This house is waiting for shavings
to be put back in.
This is the 2nd set of houses.
Only a few chickens were able
Saturday, February 21, 2009
Monday, February 16, 2009
Sunday, February 15, 2009
*Philippians 2:2 "Then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and purpose."
*Ephesians 4:3 "Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace."
The problem with most marriages are that one day people wake up and realize that their marriage wasn't what they thought marriage was going to be. You have put all your energy and focus into the thought that this other person was suppose to make you happy and fulfill all your dreams and fantasies. That isn't a realistic approach to marriage, but I think we are all guilty of that, but only Christ can fulfill all your needs and dreams, wants, and desires. Here are 6 keys to a satisfying marriage:
1.) COMMUNICATION-reliable communication permits progress, good communication per motes active listening. (Prov. 13:17)
A study was done that we spend about 30 minutes a week talking with our spouse and about 47 hours a week in front of the TV. Communication has to be practiced. It has been proven that women get their linguistic skills a lot earlier than men, and that men speak about 20,000 words a day and women speak about 30,000 words a day. But we have got to turn that TV, video game, ipod, etc. off and talk. Come home from work, we are all tired, but cook dinner together, and then eat not in front of the TV and there is about an hour or so you can spend talking and catching up with each other.
2.) CONSIDERATION-show your love by being helpful to each other (Eph. 4:2b, James 3:7)
Why would you spite your own life and not be considerate to the one that makes your life better? Try to find ways to lighten the load for your spouse. When you wife comes in from the grocery store, without being asked, go help unload the car and help put up the groceries. Instead of being asked, start a load of laundry, help fold the clothes and put them away. Ladies, when you husband comes home from a hard day at work, don't start nagging right a way, ask about his day first.
3.)COMPROMISE-love does not demand its own way (1 Cor.13:5)
Don't try to "remake" your spouse. They are who they are. They are the same as they were before you married them, and they are not going to change. Some people say that after time "they are different or they have changed, they are not the same person that I married". Yes, yes they are, you just thought you could change them or thought they would change and when you realized they didn't or you couldn't make them, you are confused. There will always be conflict, some issues that you will never agree on, and you will need to compromise. Mature love is compromise-you can either win the argument or save your relationship. It's a maturity issue not a competition. So, GROW UP! If you decided you were adult enough to marry, then you are adult enough to deal with the bumps in the road that life will throw at you.
4.)COURTSHIP-let (your spouse's) affection fill you at all times with delight (Prov.5:19b)
You remember how you felt the first time your spouse called you and asked you out on a date. You were so excited and had a count down going. For a week you planned what to wear and what to say. What ever you did to win your spouse, don't quit, keep the "woe" going. Plan little surprises every now and then for your spouse. It doesn't have to be any major expense. Leave a note on their steering wheel, get up early to fix breakfast, be creative, you should know what your spouse likes. If not, then ASK! "Enjoy life with your wife, whom you love. Ecc. 9:9a".
5.)COMMITMENT- "I hate divorce" says the Lord...Make sure you do not break your promise to be faithful to your spouse." Mal.2:16
You need to depend on each other. You need to cut the ties of always running to family and friends first, turn to each other. Commitment-be unhappy for awhile until you can mend it. (it-meaning the problem). If you are using the word "divorce" or threatening your spouse that you will leave just to get them to see your point of view or to get your way; you are digging a hole in your marriage that will create space between you and your spouse and is very dangerous to be playing with. There isn't any problem or issue that can't be worked out or resolved if BOTH parties want to work at it.
6.)CHRIST- gives you the desire and power to make the other 5 work. "Your attitude towards each other should be the same as that of Jesus Christ-Phill.2:5"
Real faith, and a Christ-centered relationship does make a difference. If you don't have Christ in the center of your life and your marriage, it won't work. You have got to spend time in the Word with Christ, and go to church and surround yourself with Christians, and do all of this together.
A good marriage doesn't just happen, but they are not a fairy tale either. They do exist, but it takes lots of work and its a daily sacrifice for selfish desires and to put the one your love above yourself.
*Ephesians 1:19-20 "And his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms...."
Yeah, I know what you are thinking, what in the world does that verse have to do with love and marriage. I thought the same thing at first. This verse demonstrates God's awesome power and His ability to do anything. One key point was that "God did not give you your spouse to make you happy, but to teach you how to love." Marriage is suppose to be a glimpse for us of how God loves the church and for how He loves us. Everything about God is love-it defines Him and who He is. He had the power to resurrect Christ, He can give us that same power through the Holy Spirit to help us in our marriage. Wow! I don't know of any one else that has that kind of power and love for us. All relationships have three stress points: (1) unexpected differences (2) unmet needs and (3) unforgiven sin. God gives us the power to overcome all these.
1.) God gives us the power to fathom your spouse's differences.
-fathom- understanding the depths (1 Cor.2:11)
-maturity means that you understand your differences.
-1 Peter 3:7 " you husbands should TRY to understand the wife you live with. Yes, it does say try, because face it ladies, he doesn't understand us, and won't understand us unless we stop assuming he does and tell him and help him.
-when man says something it reflects what he thinks, when a woman says something it reflects how she feels. (so true!)
-Proverbs 24:3, James 1:5
Now what will help you understand your spouse better, besides them telling you things, the Bible. The more you understand the Bible the more you will understand your spouse. Huh? Yep! The more time you spend in God's word, the more you will learn how to treat your spouse and how to please your spouse.
2.) God will give you the power to fulfill your spouse's needs
-1 Cor. 7:3, Phill. 2:4, Phill. 2:13
-you should understand and study your mate. Remember when you first started dating, you wanted to know everything there was about your date. You would ask their friends, or ask your friends to ask their friends what they like, what they said, etc. You were like a sponge, you would soak up any information that someone would give you. You need to have that same "zeal" and excitement to still find out more about your spouse.
-The reason you stop: that takes effort and we become selfish. We want our needs meet first. It reminds me of the "Love Dare" from the movie Fire Proof: you do it without wanting anything in return whether they say thank you or not. Your focus needs to be what you can do for them, not what they can do for you. God will give you the power and energy when you don't think you can.
Something to remember about marriage:
1. you married an imperfect person.
2. you are an imperfect person.
3.) God will give you the power to forgive your spouse's mistakes.
Proverbs 21:19, Eph. 4:31, Col. 3:13
-When your spouse makes a mistake you can rub it or rub it out. You can save it for later when you get into arguments and throw it out their to dug a little deeper of a wedge between you, or you can throw it in the trash, never to be pulled out again. If you can't forgive your spouse, then you will never be pleased by them, because you will hang onto that sin that will just feed the fire that will eventually start burning down your marriage. Before you can even begin to understand your spouse and their needs, you have to forgive their mistakes. Also, if you don't forgive your spouse's mistakes, then how can you expect them to forgive yours?
Some numbers from Marriage and Divorce Magazine:
1 out of 3 marriages will end in divorce (not married in a church and non-Christians)
1 out of 50 marriages will end in divorce (if married in a church and both are Christians)
1 out of 1, 150 marriages will end in divorce (if married in a church, attend church regularly, have God as the center of their marriage where both spouses are Christians with a relationship with Christ.)
Major difference when you look at the deciding factors.
Abby's card to Kevin
Wednesday, February 11, 2009
Saturday, February 7, 2009
Friday, February 6, 2009
Thursday, February 5, 2009
Here's the recipe for these "dog" approved ham and cheese roll ups:
-sliced cheese (the Kraft singles)
*Spread the soften cream cheese onto the tortilla. Then layer with the ham and cheese. Roll up. Then cut into bit size pieces. Use a toothpick to keep them together.
They really were good and an easy and simple party treat!
Sunday, February 1, 2009
Today we went to visit Mandy, Brandon, and Nathan. When we got there, Brandon was still at church and it was Mandy, Nathan, and Mandy's sister and mom. We had a great visit. Nathan is so cute and precious! I can see both Mandy and Brandon in him. He slept the whole time, until right before we got ready to leave, he finally opened his eyes. But it was time for lunch and we had been trying to wake him up for about 20 minutes to eat. We also got to see Mandy and Brandon's new house. It is very nice. I know they will enjoy living there. We hated to leave, but we had to head home. Hopefully, in about 2-3 years, Nathan will have a little cousin to play with. Brandon and Kevin are cousins and they grew up together and were really close. I know with the distance that Nathan and his future cousin won't be as close, but hopefully they will at least be good friends. Again, congratulations to you both! We are very happy for you!
Kevin really liked the Cocky